There are some who make decisions based on an emotional meaning, and those who only use critical thinking. Then there are those who allow their fears to make decisions, and those who relate to past experience and only make the decisions that they are relatively sure will work. What do…

Persona is not a documentary. It is an uneducated opinion filled with inaccuracies and misleading insinuations.

If I was to write down everything I thought about this program, I would be repeating what has already been said about MBTI® not being designed as a hiring tool, the suggestion that…

Do you ever catch yourself being self critical? Yeah. Me too.

Photo by Patrick Fore

The Inner Critic has played a big part in my life and achievement. It has kept me on the straight and narrow, it has helped me get better and it has always made me strive for what I want…

How successful coaches and mentors challenge their clients through limiting beliefs

Mentoring at the Institute of Management Consultants’ Annual event Sydney 2019


  1. Recognize the pattern that is running the sabotaging story. Recognizing the pattern that is running the sabotaging story can set your client free from their old frame of thinking and its subsequent results. …

Most of us struggle with some level of self sabotage, self sacrifice and procrastination. Who knew it was an inside job!

[Excerpt from the 4 People WithinⓇ 6-month self discovery journey]

Self Sabotage

Self sabotage is a behavior or thought pattern which creates unnecessary problems and interferes with our life goals.


Do you seem to know others better than they know you?

Do you find yourself withholding information about yourself because you’ve seen what happens when you do?

Have you felt lonely and as if you can’t trust others?

When we are not integrated, we can be withholding and distrustful. This…

Why boundaries can transform your life, while barricades may ruin it.

When it comes to those closest to us; our partner, children, co-workers and family, it is wise to note the difference between Boundaries and Barricades.


  • Are like a gate — we can let people and ideas in and…

Why the Biden/Harris Administration has the potential to restore our sense of personal power

We have seen the geopolitical, global health, and financial implications of the Trump administration worldwide over the last four years. Many articles have been written about the consequences of the administration on climate, fundamental human rights, and the economic divide created through tax cuts for specific demographics. While these issues…

Are you afraid of being a failure? Failure is an event, not a person. The only way to fail is by refusing to learn. Successful entrepreneurs fail forward.

If we knew we could not fail, what would we go for in life?

We tend to overestimate how much we can…

Merja Sumiloff

Integration Mentor, personality profiler, Founder of Sumiloff Academy of Human Integration

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